An Unexpected Wedding: August 2011

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

The other side

Dancing by ourselves...

Just a quick note to dip my toes back in the blogging water post wedding (I was going to say post marriage but that sounds like it's over already...). I suppose I left it this long to get some perspective so I could have a go at being the wise owl I always want to be about stuff... hopefully that wont prevent me from write crazy happy joyful posts too!

Anyway. The wedding.

The wedding was emotional and beautiful and enriching and the best party I've ever been to. It was also a bit stressful, we didn't get enough sleep the night before and everything got a little tense at least once. In short it was everything we'd hoped for and more, but there are a few things we could have planned or handled better. For a while after the wedding I was so overjoyed with how it had gone, and so fed up with thinking about the details, that I didn't want to write about it at all. Now, with a bit of time behind us, I'm looking forward to the opportunity to pick over things a bit. Hopefully I can share some lessons from the less than ideal bits (once I've mused a bit about what those lessons are...), and also share some of the joy that was in our day.

P.S. being married is so much better than getting married, I love the other side.

Learning:

Getting married wasn't really in my plan, so tying the knot at 23 was somewhat unexpected, but awesome! In the planning stage I hoped that bouncing my thoughts off the internet, and anybody who stumbles across them would help me to work out how to do it in a way that was right for us.

Now we're wed I hope I have a little wisdom to share, and if not wisdom at least experience. Reading wise words from a whole load of clever people kept me on the straight and narrow through the wedding planning. I hope this can do the same for somebody, and I would love to hear anything you have to share, wise or otherwise!

Why 'An unexpected wedding' ?

I wrote a little bit of an explanation as to how this blog got its name here. I think the name also conveys something of my attitude to weddings in general; they just arn't expected any more. The place of marriage in our society has changed, and I think that is what has allowed me, albeit somewhat reluctantly at first, to embrace marriage. I'm really excited about making our marriage awesome, and being part of a generation who isn't expected to marry has allowed me to feel this way. We're doing this consciously and purposefully because we want to nurture our relationship, and I think that has surprised some people. So here's to making conscious choices to better our world, and to starting the revolution at home.