I've just got my exam results back for my second to last semester and they really weren't so great. I'm partly annoyed at myself for not doing better, but I'm mostly just disappointed. I had started to imagine what it would feel like to get my degree results and get a first, and how happy I'd be, and now that I know that's not a possibility I feel like I've lost something.
I've been trying to dissect why I'm feeling this, how I can feel better about it, and how I can avoid setting myself up for disappointment. This got me thinking about whether I have unrealistic expectations of our wedding day, and whether I'm just setting myself up for disappointment with that as well.
In general I don't think I have too many specific expectations, which is a good thing, but then I thought of one HUGE expectation I have: that it's not going to rain. I realised that all our planning, and all of my imaginings, feature a lovely sunny day. Ooops.
Our wedding is in Dorset, not renowned for it's dry weather, and although it is summer rain is still pretty likely. I think we need to spend a bit of time thinking of back up plans, as well as just imagining a rainy wedding day. Thinking about it I'm not actually that bothered by the idea of rain, I mean it's not ideal but it's not the end of the world either. But that's just it, it's not that the rain itself would be disastrous, it's the loss of the sunny day I'd imagined that would upset me. I'm definitely prone to getting needlessly upset about things that really aren't that bad, just because I had a better outcome so clear and fixed in my mind.
So this is what I need to try and avoid, not 'bad' things happening, but holding rigidly fixed ideas of how things will go. I certainly don't want to advocate doom-and-gloom thinking about your wedding day, but in this case a bit of 'worst case scenario' (I mean really? It's just a bit of rain!) thinking might be the best innoculation to a whole load of unnecessary disappointment.
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